I make a lot of posts on productivity and making the most of the time that we’ve got on this funny little planet. I always want to better myself and see what I can make of this life, and 2019 will be no exception. I’m always someone who has to have a cause, and goals to strive for, and I’m so excited to welcome in the New Year, and embrace the changes and memories to come of 2019.
Here are 7 things that I will be leaving behind in 2018, to give 2019 a positive kick-start.
PEOPLE PLEASING / CARING TOO MUCH ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK
I’m a people pleaser and always have been, but lately I’ve been really trying to focus on what I want, instead of what I think that people want for me, and that’s included making some bold decisions; some that I’ve even been too nervous to talk about really. I’ve always been known around people associated with me, as the girl who acts and does films, and for the past three years I’ve loved it. I’ve made incredible memories, travelled to some amazing places, and it’s shaped me into who I am today, but through writing and blogging, I took a step back from acting after a bad experience in September, and since then I’ve found that my creative needs are still being fulfilled, and for the first time in a long time, I feel in control of my life. I also dropped out of the Open University. It was a hard decision because I was hitting the top grades straight away, but I chose a course that I knew was a safety net, and I didn’t enjoy it at all and knew that continuing a course that I didn’t like for 3-6 years, was a recipe for disaster. Since then I have been offered a scholarship in Birmingham to study something that I’m yearning to learn about, I’m sure you’ve all noticed – Criminology. It’s scary, and I get worried about what people think, I mean technically I’m a mature student, as I start studying I have friends who are already graduating, but for the first time in ages I feel really excited and ready for a change. With 2019, I’m going to worry less about what people say or think, and follow my heart. Our lives are for us, as Sarah Knight would say ‘You Do You’.
SOCIAL MEDIA PRESSURE
I’ve never been an avid social media poster who took things too seriously, but one thing I’ve learnt quickly as a blogger, is the importance of Instagram especially when it comes to Brands. It’s very rare that a brand will want to work with you on your blog, and not also be featured on your Instagram, and with that comes a lot of pressure. Social media stopped becoming a ‘post what I’d like to post’ outlet, and instead became a ‘post only the highest quality that will appeal to brands’. Whilst I’m proud of my photographs that I post, in embracing 2019, I’m making the promise to take social media less seriously, and to be more ‘me’ on it. There’s too much pressure on social media to be perfect, some bloggers post every day with their freshly styled hair, their designer makeup, and Gucci bag, and it’s so easy to feel inadequate because we don’t see the outtakes, the post-production, and the filters. It’s incredibly incredibly rare that I even post a photo of myself online anymore, whereas before I started my blog, two stone heavier I was proud of myself, and that’s going to change and I’m excited once again.
I’ve made a pledge to myself, that I will be kinder to the world around me. That includes replacing disposable bottles with a Chilly’s bottle, and a Starbucks keep cup, using reusable bags only, and always recycling what I can, and hopefully by the time 2020 comes (that’s scary, where is the time going?) I’ll have even better pledges to make to the world, to make an even bigger difference.
One thing that I’ve noticed, is just how much the people around you can actually effect who you are. “Amazing things happen when you distance yourself from negativity” and it couldn’t be more true. Surrounding yourself with good people, changes your life. Now I’m not saying that your friends should be Saints, but having people who are there for you, inspire you, and uplift you when you need it, is so so important. Negative people, especially for an Empath like me, can be like having a parasite feed off all of your energy, but it doesn’t have to be like that. YOU choose your friends.
SAYING YES TO EVERYTHING
If you’ve ever seen the film Yes Man, you have an idea of where I’m going with this, Growing up, you’re always told to say ‘yes’ to as many things as you can, and to grab life by the horns, but this shouldn’t always be the case. It’s so easy to say yes to everything and burn yourself out, or say yes to please people (you see point one) and end up being walked all over because you’re nice. Here’s something groundbreaking I’ve learned this year – saying no is so so important. It’s ok to say no, you always have a choice, and you’re not a bad person for putting yourself first when you need to.
I mentioned in a previous post that I’ve been recording my spending habits every single month, and it’s opened my eyes to the little titbits that I spend so casually, that in fact really add up by the end of the month. My new promise is to always record my spending, and this has worked wonders for me – If I see something I’d like to buy, I wait a few days, and then if I still want it, I can get it. 95% of the time, my mind has changed. I even asked for the ‘Financial Diet’ book for Christmas. Look at me all grown up!
USING MY PHONE TOO MUCH
I know, I know. I hammer on about this, and then sit here on my phone posting this BUT with 2019, I really am making a pledge to use my phone less. My new phone commandments from a recent post still stand: No phone at meal times, no phone an hour before bed, and no phone whilst out for walks, and I really do feel more present in the world.
Is everyone excited for 2019? I’m so ready for a fresh start, I hope you all had a lovely Christmas!